Modern Dad’s Challenges represents a series of events addressed to fathers, which aim, in the long term, to develop a community of modern fathers, involved in the lives of children. We recommend that you follow these events closely, as they are both novel and useful. Each edition has a specific theme, on which various guests speak, and the event also includes more informal activities such as raffles – at one of them Silviu won a super beautiful little house that Noria manages in a way and manner. At the same time, these meetings represent a good opportunity for interaction and networking between fathers, which only they need!
We have been to both editions so far and we are looking forward to the next ones. The events are free and pre-registered. Here it is the Facebook page where they are announced:
At the last edition, which took place on July 5, the theme of the meeting was a new dear: traveling with children and child safety in the car.
Like any parents, we also had intense emotions at the beginning of the journey, when we were just learning how to behave and adjust to the new being in our lives, and traveling was a distant thought and not very achievable. When I left the maternity hospital, we didn’t even have a shell in the car, so little had we had time to inform ourselves. We came with the baby in a kind of bassinet, and only after 2-3 weeks did we finally acquire a proper bassinet. 6 weeks after birth, with a heart as big as a flea, we made our first longer trip (100 km from Bucharest). I was lucky that the little girl slept most of the way, but on the later journeys she stayed in my arms more, because I couldn’t bear to let her cry from all the little things in the shell. I just couldn’t, even though I knew what I was doing was deeply wrong. First holiday with baby at 4 months he was in the village of May 2, then we made various trips by car. When he was 1 year and a month old, I took my first long trip, a road trip through Transylvania, which I wrote about here.
Meanwhile, I had switched from the clamshell to the car seat. As I also wrote in that article, on the occasion of the trip to Transylvania, I had made the firm decision not to give in to crying under any circumstances and not to travel with Noria in my arms, because I was exposing her to far too great risks. Until that moment we had avoided applying the “teachings” of the “cry-out” method in any way, which basically advise you to let the child cry until he can’t cry anymore, in order to train him to “learn” with various things , such as, for example, sleeping alone in the crib.
But on the occasion of that trip, I decided together with my friend that I would also travel in the front with him, and Noria would stay in the back, securely fastened in the seat belts. We thought that if she didn’t see me around her anymore she wouldn’t start crying to be picked up, and it seems that this ploy worked in the end. I heroically withstood all the inevitable crying that ensued and never got out of the chair. Anyway, I wasn’t sitting back anymore.
I had in mind the great risks and the terrible impact that even the smallest accident can have on a young child who is not protected by a car seat. As it was also pointed out during the event, the child should not be out of the seat for even 2 minutes, even if it is a simple trip by car, to the corner of the street.
But anyway, the crying didn’t flow as much as we expected, because Noria understood quite quickly that there was no point in crying and that she would not be taken out of her chair. Instead, I stopped quite often for play and nursing breaks. Slowly, slowly, during that road trip through Transylvania that lasted almost 2 weeks, we started to form a rhythm and a discipline of driving. Of course, the howls in the back didn’t die down like that one by two, but over time they thinned out considerably. We continued to expose the little girl to roads by car, and a few months later we dared to organize the first road trip outside the country, to Greece. Details here.
If we had had the opportunity to attend an event like the Modern Dads Challenge series before all of these ordeals, all the information and advice given there by various guests would certainly have helped us a lot.
Here it is little summary of this driving informationwith a small child:
** Up to 2 years (at least) it is recommended to have a seat that can be mounted with its back facing the direction of the road. The weight of a child’s head represents approx. 25% of the body’s weight, the spine is not ossified, and in a car accident the chances are very high that he will break his neck.
** The car seat must not move more than 2’5 cm to the left or right. The distance between the seat belts and the child’s chest should be two fingers, no more, no less.
** The vehicle seat belt must be fitted over the child’s thighs, not over the abdomen.
**Read carefully and follow the instructions for installing / removing the car seat.
** Throughout Europe, the emergency number is 112. When you go on a journey, the partner on the right must know where they are at the time of travel. In the event of an accident, the one on the right must call 112 and say where they are. For example, if it’s on the highway, it needs to be able to tell what kilometer you’re at.
**If a bee or wasp gets into your car while driving, the first thing you should do is pull over to the right and put on your hazard lights. Similarly, pull on the right side in case the child drowns while driving.
** Avoid buying a used car seat, because you don’t know exactly what history it has, if for example it has been involved in an accident (in which case the child’s safety is no longer guaranteed).
**Car accidents are the leading cause of death and injury among children, and injuries at 50 km/h are similar to those caused by a 10m drop.
**Statistics indicate that over 80% of parents install the car seat incorrectly!
Here is also a Facebook group that promotes prolonged walking of the child with its back to the direction of walking:
Rear makes extended in Romania
The Modern Dad’s Challenges event is initiated by Fronzaresc.eu and implemented with advertising agency Creative Energy Corner.
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